I know a priest who says the churchgoers who complain the most are the C&E (Christmas and Easter) Catholics.
They show up twice a year. It’s crowded. It’s hard to find a place to park or sit. They are often seated in overflow rooms only to see the service on a big screen. This brings them no peace or spiritual serenity.
Let this be a lesson to all. If you want to enjoy someplace, go in the off-season. Christmas and Easter are to Christianity what the 4th of July is to patriotism, what New Year’s Eve is for a night out for a drink.
It’s like judging the retail shopping experience based only on Black Friday.
A faith walk is most meaningful in the quiet moments. Judge your church experience on the second Sunday in April, not Christmas Eve or Easter.
Anyway, a spiritual journey is ongoing. It is the accumulation of every step along the way. If you wait for the big, showbiz holidays, then it’s too late, like waiting till your kid is 14 to talk about sex, versus setting an example with open discussion beginning when they are 3.
Imagine if you exercised only two days a year, then complained because you still gained weight!y.
So try not to be so obvious. Instead of volunteering at a soup kitchen on Christmas Eve, do it on some random Wednesday in February, or a Thursday in July, or a Monday in August. That’s when they need the most help. That’s when you’ll do the most good.
Then on Christmas, sleep in. Besides, at church, they need all the seating they can get.
Mark Morelli is a New York Times Bestseller reader.